Mayhem Monday: No More Fake News!

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had it with fake news! It’s time to get real.

And I’m not just talking about the parade of false narratives coming out of Washington, DC either–although I’m certainly tired of those! I’m talking about the false narratives that invade our daily lives and inform our daily decisions. The narratives that shape our worldview about things like relationships, beauty, success and happiness. So many of our ideas about such things are dictated by media–social media, news media, entertainment television, print media and, of course, Hollywood–but when we finally power off the devices we still have to deal with the realities, whether we like them or not. So what happens when our reality doesn’t look like all the pretty pictures we spend so many hours of our day staring at? Depression? Anxiety? Stress?

How does the disconnect between what’s real and what’s perceived affect our relationships?

Recently, a few of my girlfriends and I were talking about “the real deal” when it comes to our relationships and we realized that our personal stories might resonate with some of you. We’re all married and we each have had unique experiences before and since becoming married women. When we get together our stories are…hilarious at times, but more importantly they are real!

So, there are lots of relationship books on the market–lots of books that will tell you how to have a happy marriage–lots of “how to” and 10 steps to, and the Five Love Languages… and those are all great! We’ve read them! But at the end of the day, when you’re face to face with your spouse and he’s getting on your LAST NERVE! What are some of the words that come out of your mouth in that moment? Well…

We’ll share some of our moments with you in our up coming book… The The Real Deal: Finding the Truth Through our Stories. (working title)

Now, granted, we’re not experts on marriage or relationships, we’ve just been married a long time and have lots of trial-and-error stories to share that have taught us things about ourselves, our spouses and marriage in general. We’re also still learning, but the reality is, that’s life! It’s a work in progress! The real deal is relationships don’t fit into nice, neat categories or tidy 10-step plans. You figure it out as you go.

So, we’re dumping the fake news and we’re just going to give it to you straight! Are you ready for it? We can’t wait to share!

In the coming weeks I’ll tell you more about the book, our Facebook Live chat and all the other plans in the making for this new venture. I’m excited about what’s in store and I hope you’ll come along for the ride!

Happy Monday!


Mr. Nice Guy

Mr. Nice Guy

She’s says he’s a “nice guy”

but his smile is too sweet.

Like saccharin. It leaves a bad taste.

He wears a nice suit

Says all the right things

How do you do?

Yes ma’am

Right away!

But when he thinks I’m not looking

I see something evil lurking

His gaze glosses over as we discuss the weather.

His eyes drift down my thigh…

He checks himself when I say his name

and the saccharin smile returns

plastered like a Las Vegas billboard

false advertising

My daughter bounces back

like a brightly-colored beach ball.

“I’m ready!” She announces.

And I know she isn’t.