Revise, Rewrite–Revamp!

Yesterday I invited you to take up your pen and write, or re-write your story. Today, Tanzy shares her re-vision. Read on!

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At 17 years old I was working my first retail job. I was helping a customer when a co-worker tapped me and said, “the owner of the store is here.” I glanced over and saw him head to the back office. I continued to help the customer because I was taught, the customer gets your full attention. By the time the customer left, the owner had left as well. The next morning I got a call from the store manager. She said, “we will no longer be needing your services.” When I asked her why, she responded by saying “the owner came into the store and barely even noticed you. He didn’t feel you were outgoing and vibrant enough.” At that age I was crushed. As time passed I continued to hear similar words in a variety of circumstances. I was

not loud enough
not charismatic enough
not bold enough
not energetic enough

Needless to say, I started feeling very insufficient. But, guess what? Everyone who said that to me was right. For THEM I was not enough.  But for me! I’m quite enough!

Once I decided that I didn’t need validation from THEM, I started to explode in my own strengths.  Then I started to hear,

Your presence is so inviting;
Your words are so powerful;
Your heart is so understanding;
Your smile is so warming!

People will be quick to point out your insufficiencies, but the still voice of God will show you your strengths. Once you recognize your own value, others will see it too.

“The woman who doesn’t need validation from anyone, is the most powerful woman in the world”– unknown

Thank you, Tanzy for this important reminder! Follow Tanzy on Facebook and subscribe to her YouTube channel, Revamp Fitness. Sign up for her virtual 10K and learn more about getting physically and mentally fit for 2018! Every now and then Tanzy will stop in to inspire us with her ReVamp Motivation in 2018. Look out for them! You can also check out her ReVamp Monday posts located on the Books & Coffee home page.

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Revamp Monday: Don’t Fit In!

Do you ever feel like a square peg in a round hole?  While some people know early on what they are meant to do in life–the path is clear, the doors open–for others of us there is more uncertainty. I live with uncertainty, but occasionally I find myself among people smiling and talking to one another about the “work” they do and I listen as they go on with great certainty, as if it is their life, and I think…do I belong here? Is this work my life? Is this my life work? Square peg. Round hole.

Maybe you’ve been there? Unsure how your gifts and talents fit into the grand scheme of life and work? Those whose work is acceptable along traditional paths have no problems. If you want to be a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer, a preacher or a teacher people approve and applaud you, but if you choose to be an artist, a musician or a writer people discourage you.  “You can’t make any money doing that” a family member scoffed at my young dream dashing it against the rocks of cynicism leaving me adrift in a sea of uncertainty.  Her words reflected the sentiment of so many others who are suspicious of those who choose untraditional paths. Yet what are we to do? Those of us who feel this pull to do something other than traditional work?

Tanzy says, be courageous! Put your gifts and talents to good use in spite of what others say. I think she’s right.

Happy Labor Day Monday!

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Monday Mayhem: People Watching!

Get Busy Living!

Get Busy Living!

My sister and I have the unique privilege of sharing our birthday month. Though several years apart, there are only two days between our birthdays, so every year we celebrate together. This year, however, she is celebrating a milestone birthday, which she would prefer I didn’t bring attention to. For some reason this birthday, in particular, has her feeling anxious and her trepidation over this birthday has me thinking about birthdays in general.  I must admit, the older I get, the less excited I am about my birthday too.  Unlike my children who look forward to growing older with great joy, pretty much after 30 growing older became less and less fun for me! Let’s face it, everyone wants to grow up, but no one wants to get old.  But, it’s going to happen to all of us whether we like it or not and as my husband pointed out, nobody wants the alternative either!

So, there has to be a more productive way to look at this birthday thing. If it’s inevitable we have to find a positive spin! I refuse to peer down the tunnel of my future as if it were a deep dark hole of despair! As Morgan Freeman’s character says in the movie Shawshank Redemption I only have two choices: I can either “get busy livin’ or get busy dyin’” and I don’t know about you, but I have a lot more living to do!

So, I see it like this. I’m going to assume that time is like money and I’m going to assume I have at least $100 to spend. I mean, no one knows just how much time they have, but why not plan for the best case scenario? If I’m 40 years old, then it’s like I have $60 left in my account. If I’m 60 years old it’s like I have $40 left. The question is, am I going to cry about the $60 or the $40 I spent already, or am I going to figure out a creative way to spend the money—or time—I  have left?

Get busy livin’ or get busy dyin’…

If you’ll excuse me, I have some time left and some shopping to do!

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Happy birthday to me (and my sis)!

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