My niece and nephew graduated this weekend and, of course, I’m super proud of them! They each chose a different path, but both tore through the academic wilderness and emerged unscathed–well, they survived anyway. After all, what’s a war without a few batttle scars?
(Sean Hampton, actor)
They were priveleged with great parents who prepared them for their successes, who equipped them with all of the necessary tools–private schools, summer camps, extra curriculars–as well as the intangibles like love and security. Yet, Tyler and Greg had to find their own way in college. Mom and Dad couldn’t study for them or finish their assignments. Once the foundation was laid, the building was up to them.
The “Different World” can be a scary place when you’re facing it all alone…
Funny thing is, a different world is where Greg and Tyler are NOW!
Kids often think that preparation is the time at home. To an extent that’s true, but what my niece and nephew are about to discover is that they’ve actually been in a safe haven all this time. College is just an extention of home. It’s still a place of preparation as professors and administrators dictate courses and curfews (especially when you attend, as they did, a parochial school affiliated with a highly conservative religious organization.)
Oh yes, the real world is still waiting…
But I’m proud of them, nonetheless. I know they’ll make it.
We’ve done all we can to prepare them–we, the parents, the aunties, the professors, the surrogates. Now we’ll watch as they spread their wings, and we’ll hope that the determination that brought them this far will carry them the rest of the way!
And for all the other Tylers and Gregs out there, setting out on your own, just know that life is full of surprises. Your future may or may not turn out the way you envisioned it, but you can be sure that success is possible if you stay open to the many ways it may be manifested. For our Mayhem Monday motiviation, check out Laura Berman Fortgang’s TED Talk on “Finding Your Dream Without Looking at Your Resume!” And I wish you all Godspeed!