Monday Mayhem: PURPOSE

Purpose comes from knowing who you are.

Knowing who you are requires acknowledgment of what GOD has put inside of you and the great thing about what GOD has put inside of you is that NO ONE can take it away from you!

  • not your boss
  • not your spouse
  • not your roommate or your
  • so-called friends

No matter what they say about you, to you or on your behalf. The truth shall prevail, because GOD’s word is bond.

I’ve spent a lot of years searching for love in all the wrong places…

Wondering and wandering who I was and whose I was…

unsure of my purpose and place, all over the place…

but I’m finally starting to get it…

It’s been in me all along–now nobody can take it away!

One distinction that I’m especially going to make moving forward:

I’m not a teacher.

I didn’t go to school to be a teacher.  I studied Communications and English. So how did I get stuck with that label?

I let someone else define my purpose–no more!

I’m not a teacher.

I’m a writer.

I’m a professor of English who works with student writers.

I’m a writer who writes and works with writers–student writers and professional writers–and part of my work is to educate novices and professionals about the work that I do, because most people have a very limited understanding about the work that I do!

But I will NOT be confined any longer by the narrowness of others’ views.

I will NOT be defined any longer by the narrowness of others’ minds–tiny minds that think in tiny thoughts and tiny words…

I will NOT be restrained by institutions that are so buried in the bones of the past that they are unable to rise above the ashes of ancestry to see the light of a new day…

I will NOT be a cog in a wheel of an old wagon that’s draggin’ on but goin’ nowhere…

I will NOT be enslaved because I. am. free.

I am controlled by no one but GOD.

I am a free agent




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Here are a few of my go-to recipes that give me energy and inspiration!

  1. Aeyisha Curry’s Greek Yogurt Parfaits


  1. K’s Raisin Bran Sweet Bread

Although I’ve re-named this recipe, I’m giving you the link to the original bran muffin recipe which I follow. Then I add a few extras of my own: 1/4 cup flax seeds, 1/4 cup rolled oats, raisins and walnuts to taste (1/4-1/2 cup each).  Also, to save time, I mix all of the ingredients then plop the mix right into a pyrex or metal pan rather than using a muffin pan–thus it is transformed from muffins to sweet bread, like magic! Pictured here is a slice with Aeyisha Curry’s Greek Yogurt Parfait and a warm cup of Postum. Delicious!


3. Fruity Kale Salad

4. Green Tea Smoothie


5. Kale Salad with Apricot Ginger Vinaigrette


Monday Mayhem: Intentional


Note: This is a “Monday Mayhem Post” that’s a little late, so, just go with it…lol!

When I look at my students dozing off in class I wonder…

Why are they here? Why did they bother to roll out of bed, slide into their sweats and flop into those horrible green desks today? Why are they staring at me with those blank stares or into the blank screens of their laptops or cell phones? Why do any of us bother?

Professors dress up. We slip on our uncomfortable heels and button up our bow ties. We revise our syllabi and re-write our semeter schedules to make room for one more assignment, because, well, just because…

Is it intentional?

I’ve been challenging myself and my students lately to think about this. What are we doing–and why? Two of the four classes I teach each semester are sections of the “dreaded” Freshman Composition. The class everyone loves to hate. One of the reasons it’s so hated is that it’s considered to be a “pointless” class–an extention of 12th grade English–touché.

So, this semester, I’m being intentional.

I’m going to assume that their writing skills will progress naturally through the writing process, as writing skills tend to do, and I will instruct my students on the grammatical and usage standards, as any good English teacher should.  But, rather than have them write the traditional final essay–that they’ll read once (maybe) and never again–which I’ll, then, read once (or twice) then stick in a file–I’m going to have them, instead, create something of value, something meaningful, something that goes beyond this freshman class! I’m challenging these students to create a document that has legs!


I want them to write with intention, to a real audience. Well, I’m real, but not just to me–to people other than me.

They’re going to identify a problem that they care about–a problem that they want to find a solution to–then they’re going to search out a solution to that problem and write to people who might be able to do something about…

  • the friend whose dad got deported
  • this religious organization that’s still segregated in 2017
  • the family with a history of violence and abuse

It’s about being intentional.

Because, what’s the point of learning how to write better if your essay just gets shoved in a drawer?

So, they’ll submit their articles to magazines or newspapers, or they’ll send off their letters to senators or presidents. They’ll draft feasibility reports or white papers for corporations. Whatever document they think will best serve a real purpose, that they think will make a real difference, that’s what they’ll create!

Who knows? Maybe the documents will still end up in a drawer, but if these students pour their hearts into these projects, their documents will no longer be “essays for Dr. Roper” but rather personal projects that achieve a purpose that they actually care about. These should go far beyond this class.  That would make me very happy.

I don’t expect perfect projects, but I’m excited because the act of doing this is enough to shake all of us out of the doldrums. Doing something that matters is worth it’s weight in gold.

So, what about you? Have you gotten stuck in a routine? Been doing the same old thing in the same old way? Why not re-evaluate?

Why are you here? Why did you bother to roll out of bed, slide into your slippers and flop into your day?  Are you staring out at your life, blankly wondering when, or how, it’s going to end? That’s no way to live! Challenge yourself! Try something new! Look for ways to make the mundane more meaningful. Why not start by looking for a problem you can solve? Even a small one.  Small accomplishments can go a long way towards moving you in the direction of your goal.

For us writers, that may mean a few words, a few pages or 10 minutes!  Just be intentional. You won’t regret it.

Happy Monday.


Happy Birthday, Daddy!


I think about you so much. I miss your laughter and your corny jokes. I even miss those stupid, junky cars…well, maybe not all of them. But I saw an old camper rollin’ down the highway and I sure did think about you. I could just hear you braggin’ about an old thing like that, tellin’ everybody what a deal you got on it and how we ought to take it across country for vacation. Lord knows that thing wouldn’t make it across the street, much less across country. But, God bless you, there was never a lost cause you didn’t put your everything into…including me…


Me and sis were laughing the other day about how you’re the only man we know who could fix anything with a roll of duct tape and a butter knife!  That pretty much sums it up.

So, here’s to fond memories of the first man I ever loved. Happy Birthday.





Monday Mayhem: Fearless

So, I did something crazy the other day.  I said out loud, to my husband, what my deepest darkest dream is…by dark I don’t mean dark, I mean deep. I mean, it’s so deep down that it’s buried in a place where it’s dark. A place where nobody can see it, ’cause it’s that crazy kind of dream that nobody dares to dream out loud where folks can see it, point at it, laugh at it.  It’s just too big and, well, impossible.


It’s so impossible, in fact, that I don’t even think I knew that I dreamed it until I heard myself say it out loud. Then, when I said, it I laughed out loud!

Ha! That’s funny, huh?


He would never laugh at something so serious as his wife’s deepest, darkest, most heart-felt, never-spoken out loud dream. Because, heck, after 20 years of marriage, he knows better!

“Not funny at all. Aim for it

That’s all he said.

“Aim for it.”

“Aim for it? Do I dare?”

When I Googled “fearless” I found so many great inspirational quotes about moving past fear, then I thought about scriptures like “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power” (2 Timothy 1: 7) and my favorite: “I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future” (Jer. 29:11).


Maybe, I need to pull that old dream up out of the pit so I can aim for it.

Perhaps you’re wondering what it is? That deep, dark dream of mine? Well, the first step was saying it out loud. The second step is setting up the target…let me work up to making the big announcement, okay? One thing at a time!

But, come on, it’s Mayhem Monday! Why don’t you join me? Pull out whatever you’ve got cooped up in your own pit of untapped potential–those running shoes, those writing pens, those swimming trunks, those 10lb weights…whatever it is you’ve been puttin’ off ’til Monday or someday, the time is here! Put away fear and let’s aim for it! We. can. do. this!

Happy Monday!


Monday Mayhem: Create!

Good Morning!

To get us energized today, I’m suggesting a brisk walk, walk/run or 1 mile run at your fastest pace–10 minutes minimum.  Remember, the shorter the time, the more intense the effort. If you have 30 minutes to an hour for your workout, then you can afford to work at a moderate pace, but you still want to gradually increase periods of intensity. If you opt for the 10 minute sprint, follow that with a Tabata (Burpees, Jump squats or Lunges) Then…

Fuel up with my favorite parfait and slices of green apples this time. Aren’t they pretty?2017-02-13-07-09-16

Now it’s time to CREATE!

I found this mug at Burlington Coat Factory of all places (who knew?) and I love it! Not only is it sturdy and perfect for cupping a warm beverage, it’s also inspirational. To create is to cause something to come into being…so when we create those characters in our stories it’s like we’re little scientists piecing together the leftover parts of people we once knew to make new people we have yet to know…people who come alive on the pages of our text and become real. Real to us and to our readers.  Yet, they are not real. They are not natural. They do not evolve except in our imaginations and the processes by which they come to be are so extraordinary that it literally keeps us up at night…keeps us up nights…night

after night…

unnatural indeed.

Yet invigorating!

Because, today, creators we will be! Fueled with energy and imagination, we will forge ahead into that vast unknown and emerge victorious on the other side!